{Enhancing Your Marriage} The Savior and the Helper

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Welcome to Week Two of Enhancing Your Marriage! This online study is based upon Judy Rossi’s study of the same name. All quotes, unless otherwise noted, will belong to her.

Take your time as you read through this. Pray as you read the scriptures and answer the questions. Be honest with yourself. This is between you and God. And if you feel like sharing something that might encourage another sister in Christ, please do. You may comment below OR ask to join the Enhancing Your Marriage Facebook Group. This is a safe place where ladies can ask questions and encourage and mentor each other as we work on our marriages.

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The Downfall

Have you ever asked the question, “Why is marriage so tough?” That’s what we’re going to be discussing this week. Read Genesis 2:8-25. Then consider these questions:

1) What was Adam’s duty? What was God’s command? What would happen if he disobeyed?
2) What distracted Eve? What distracts you?
3) How was doubt planted into Eve’s mind?
4) What lie was told?
5) Have you ever questioned God’s motives for events in your life or your marriage?

“Satan will attempt to distort God’s Word, His standard, and His intent. He wants us to question God’s motives for permitting trials in our lives and marriages. If that doesn’t work, he’ll try to convince us that God is not so easily offended – that we can go against His Word if our happiness is at stake.” (pg. 27)

I know that when I was going through years of infertility I doubted God. I was angry at Him. I questioned Him. In some ways I turned on Him. But I look back now and I know that He was with me every step of the way. He strengthened not only my faith, but my relationship with my husband. BUT I had to obey Him first. Once I surrendered to my loving God, only then would He move the mountain of infertility.

The Consequences

Make a list of the characters and their curses from Genesis 3:12-19. How do you think your marriage is affected by God’s judgements against Adam and Eve?

Is your husband’s God-ordained authority in the home as issue for you?

No one likes the “S” word = Submission. When I posted THIS, the comments were very interesting. I wish you could have seen the comments on Facebook because they were more on the negative side. Women have such a warped view of what God’s definition of submission is because we look at it through either our own eyes, or the eyes of the world. But isn’t this just a consequence of the fall?

“The frightening reality is that God will hold every husband accountable for his God-ordained role in the home as leader, provider, and protector, even if he’s not a believer…If [the wife] deliberately and willfully cajoles, manipulates, and nags in order to impose her will in the area of her husband’s responsibility (which is not the same as offering wise counsel), she is in sin. If he allows her to take over his role, he is in sin.” (pg. 31)

CHALLENGE – Go and ask your husband this question: Do you think you are established in your God-given role in our home? If so, how do you know? If not, what needs to change? Pray for God to give you a teachable heart so you can listen to your husband’s heart. You might be surprised by the conversation!

Read Genesis 3:22-24. From what were they no longer permitted to eat? How come?

Read Romans 5:12-17 and 1 Corinthians 15:21. What impact did Adam’s disobedience have on everyone who came after him?

Read Romans 1:18-32. Look for the word “exchanged” and find three things “God gave them over to.” Read this with a sober spirit.

In His love, God covered Adam and Eve with the skins of animals. He shed blood so Adam and Eve would show a picture of what would be needed to fix the sin problem. Even in the garden God was planning out salvation. Read Ezekiel 36:25-28. May your heart be as blessed as mine was when I read that promise!!

The Redemption

** I want to stop right here and ask this question. Do you know Jesus? Even if you have been a believer for a long time, be sure that you know Jesus better now than you did years ago.

Read the following verses and make a list of who Jesus is: John 6:35,41,48; John 8:12; John 10:7,9; John 10:11,14; John 11:25; John 14:6; John 15:1,5; Colossians 1:15-20.

What does knowing all this about Jesus mean for your life?

Read Romans 5:18-19 and 1 Corinthians 15:21-22. Why was it necessary for Jesus to die for us?

“What disobedience to the will of God had destroyed in the garden of Eden, obedience to the will of God restored in the garden where Jesus now prayed, Yet not my will, but Yours be done.” (Luke 22:42) (pg.37)

After the crucifixion, the veil in the temple ripped in two from top to bottom symbolizing an open relationship with God had been reestablished. Jesus is our mediator. He is the Great High Priest who goes to God for us and shows us to be righteous. (Hebrews 6:19-20; 4:14-16)

It has been over 25 years since I was redeemed by the blood of the Lamb. If you are like me, sometimes my bones become dry and I need to ask the Lord to renew them and breathe a fresh breath of the Holy Spirit into me. Maybe you are a new believer and you can’t wait to know Jesus better! Or perhaps you are just now realizing that you don’t know Jesus like you thought you did. Is something missing? Pray. Admit you are a sinner. Believe in the Lord Jesus, that He lived, died on the cross, and rose again after three days. And then confess to someone that you have decided to have a new Master for your life. That means Jesus is in charge, and not you. Give God permission to cleanse you from all unrighteousness and He will begin transforming you into the beautiful image of His Son.

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The Assurance

Read Ephesians 2:1-10. Then read Romans 8:1; Colossians 1:21-22; Romans 8:38-39; 2 Corinthians 5:17; 2 Corinthians 5:21; Hebrews 7:25. So what are you thinking about Jesus right now?!? Isn’t He amazing?

Oswald Chambers, one of my favorite authors, said: “We are acceptable to God not because we have obeyed, nor because we have promised to give up things, but because of the death of Christ, and for no other reason.”

Jesus has claimed YOU!! It’s like He has reached out His hand, placed it on your head and said, “SHE IS MINE!!” Oh how I needed to hear that!!

Do you believe that you’re accepted and declared righteous by God? Read Isaiah 43:18-19. What hope does this passage give you with regard to your marriage?

The ProvisionFruit of the Spirit

Are you aware of the Holy Spirit’s presence in your life?
Do you daily acknowledge His presence in your life?
Do you daily anticipate His working in your life?
Do you sense promptings and nudgings but don’t know whether or not they’re from the Holy Spirit?
Who do you think the Holy Spirit is?
{Questions from pg.41}

Print out THIS CHART and prayerfully fill it in.

Galatians 5:22-25 tells us that the fruit of the Spirit is: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.

“No branch eats its own fruit, but instead it bears fruit for others to consume. In the same way, the Holy Spirit cultivates the fruit in us to nourish others. The more fruit we give away (use, put into practice, or exercise), the more we produce.” (pg. 43)

Read Ephesians 5:18. What are we to do?

Let’s try to remember to ask God each day this week to fill us with the Holy Spirit. Be ready to see God work and let’s share what God is doing!

Which Truth, or scripture, has challenged you today?

Thoughts? Please share!