I’m Sorry…My Kids Don’t Believe in the Easter Bunny.

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Easter BunnyI was prepared at Christmas. I had the whole comment worked out in my head when the question would be asked…

The unsuspecting person would smilingly look down at my kids and say, “So what is Santa going to bring you?”

I had the kids prepared. We tell the truth, in love. And the person would either nod his head with understanding and say, “Great!” OR I’d get the head shake of pity. At times a heated discussion would take place. But in the end, my husband and I will be held responsible for the training of our children and both of us strongly agree that Santa should not be seen as real in any way, shape, or form in our household.

So when the grocery manager asked, “Is the Easter Bunny coming to your house tonight?” I nearly fell out. I hadn’t really thought about it. I was not prepared.

I stammered and sputtered. I guess I answered ok, but it wasn’t nearly as polished as it should have been.

So much for being prepared for an answer in season and out of season.

So why don’t we allow Santa and the Easter Bunny (or the Tooth Fairy) in our home?

easterMy answer is simple. Not everyone will agree with it, and I’m ok with that. Scripture is clear about the most important thing: The Gospel. And if there is something that is trying to take the place of the Gospel, then I should have nothing to do with it.

Awwwww….but it’s harmless. Goodies and toys appear the next morning and you say the Easter Bunny brought it. What’s the harm in that?

If I tell my kids the toys, candy, stocking stuffers, disappearing teeth, tricky elf tricks, etc. all came from some arbitrary “real” character, then I would be lying to them. The Bible says, “Do not lie.” It does not say, “Only lie when you want to so you can make things fun on a holiday.” I don’t want to lie to my kids. I want them to be able to trust me in everything. A holiday is a big deal. Parents go out of their way to create traditions so memories can be made. Why do those memories have to be formed around a lie? Christians should be proclaiming Truth…especially during the holidays. Think about it. If Satan can do anything to distract us from the real meaning of Christmas, and especially Easter, then our hearts won’t be focused on his enemy: JESUS.

Which brings me to my other reason for not using these characters.  “It’s harmless fun,” some people say. Is it really? Myths and legends have been handed down since the beginning of the ages. Atheists love to lump the stories of Jesus with many legends of miraculous births and resurrections of times gone by. So now lump Santa, the Easter Bunny and the Tooth Fairy in there. What kind of conversation will you have with your child when she learns the Truth?

Wait! They aren’t real?
No, they aren’t.
Oh. So does that mean Jesus is not real, too?
No, He’s real.
Oh. How do you know?
I’ve experienced Him.
But I’ve experienced Santa. He left me toys and I really like that. I can’t see anything about Jesus.
No, your dad and I pretended to be a rabbit and Santa. We did all of those things.
So you lied to me? You tell me lying is wrong.

I’m not saying this type of conversation will happen in all Christian homes that celebrate with “real” characters. But it could, and this type of conversation doesn’t seem to be “harmless” to me. I see it as a real battle for Truth. We don’t celebrate Santa and we’ve already had a conversation with our kids about the reality of the Bible vs the lie of Santa. Life is hard enough for a Christian family. Why would we want to distract ourselves from the One Person who should guide each and every part of our lives? I have enough sins and battles to fight without willfully adding worldly issues to my family.

It is not my mission in life to ruin everyone’s holiday if my kids “accidentally” tell your kids that Santa, or the Easter Bunny, isn’t real. This choice has not been a fun one for me. In fact, it’s been quite stressful. I have been frowned upon, argued with, and had my daughter slandered on Facebook because of our decision.

Is a lie really worth that in Christian circles? Wouldn’t the enemy love to cause rifts and struggles amongst Believers? I’m not willing to give him a foothold. But I will continue to stand for Truth to the best of my ability. Not an “in your face” Truth, but “an iron that sharpens iron” type of Truth.

The Gospel is what matters. Jesus is what matters. Nothing else.

easter-268490_1280** Don’t misunderstand me. We do many fun and exciting activities during the Easter and Christmas season so the kids make memories. We also try to go out for ice cream as as family when teeth are lost.

If you are looking for fun ways to make Easter meaningful, here is a great list!



I’m Sorry…My Kids Don’t Believe in the Easter Bunny. — 28 Comments

  1. I will admit we have struggled with this decision over the years. We decided early on not to ‘do’ Santa and the bunny, etc. We do participate in egg hunts, etc. but we don’t tell our kids the Easter Bunny brought the eggs or tell them Santa gave them gifts. We have had to ‘correct’ things that others have told them, and even correct the person when they said, “That’s what Christmas is all about!” Um, no. It’s not. It’s about Jesus. Good for you for knowing what you believe in and standing for it, and Him, despite the controversy you know you will stir up or negative comments you may receive!

  2. Amen! 🙂

    It’s a struggle when friends and family don’t understand our reasons for not attending egg hunts or getting the annual picture with the bunny. Those traditions are special to them – and I get that – but I just don’t feel comfortable with the pagan history behind these symbols and I don’t want to take the focus off our Savior.

  3. When I was having a talk with one of our kids about Santa, I told them that Santa was not real. The child’s immediate response, “Is the Bible a true story?”

  4. We quit doing the Santa and Easter thing just a few years ago and I’m so glad we finally realized the harm it could potentially do. You did an awesome job on explaining it all out! You expressed exactly how we feel about it as a family too now. My youngest kids are only 12, but they see plainly the truth in how these fairy tales can take away from the real reason for these holidays. Jesus. Thank you for sharing this post with us and for standing up so boldly for what you believe too!

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  6. Well done. The greatest evidence I see of this is the reaction of children who learn the truth. It is the same reaction you see in anyone who learns that they have been lied to – immediate anger and arguing followed by tremendous sadness. think about how grown-ups act when we hear the truth about anything (e.g., politics, gospel, wrongs committed, etc…) and that’s what you see in sweet children who learn arrive at the truth about holidays after having been convinced/deceived year after year after year of something incorrect. It isn’t fun or kind when looked at from that angle. Real life can be very fun and very exciting without mixing in what is fake. 🙂

  7. My mom has always tried to make Easter one of the most important holidays because in Christianity it IS the most important. We would get stuffed bunnies, chocolate and other presents (like Legos). But we always knew it was our parents not some bunny. She still gives the grandkids special things to encourage them.

    In our house Saint Nicolas is a beloved hero of the faith and Daddy is Santa (with Grandpa helping out, too). At Easter, we make special treats (those marshmallow tombs or a lamb shaped cake) and this year grew one of those tomb gardens (ours is seriously overgrown, but lovely). The kids had a wonderful day at church and got books and toys as well.
    What shocks me is the reactions you’re getting from other people. I suppose it means your light gets to shine into darker corners, but it does get discouraging.
    Christianity gives us so much awesome reality to share with our children.There’s no way I’d trade this joy for some fluff they outgrow in a couple years and then develop into jaded teens!

  8. I completely agree with this! We don’t do Santa, the Easter Bunny, the Tooth Fairy, the Elves,.. either. I had it all when I was a kid, but my husband and I both felt differently about it with our own children. I want my kids to understand what they are really about & don’t feel that the myths do that. They know about all of them, but also know that they are just stories- that is just the way I like it! It surprises me the way people react to this choice, too.

  9. This is an excellent post! You touched on some very important points! I agree with everything you said!
    When I first became I Christian it was definitely hard for me to move away from Santa and the Easter bunny since that is how I was raised. I’m so glad we made the decision we did to focus on The Truth and teach our kids about the real reasons for the seasons. This year we didn’t even do Easter baskets (in the past we have given the kids baskets, from us not a bunny, with some candy and Bible story books), instead we just focused on Jesus and the Easter story by doing activities that focused on Him. The kids enjoyed it and didn’t even complain about not getting candy or an Easter basket!
    Thanks for this post – many people need to read this!!

    • I started out doing the Easter basket thing too a few years ago and it just didn’t feel right. This year we did the Resurrection eggs and the kids really got into it. After church on Sunday my son told me that he heard some of the other kids talking about what the Easter Bunny had brought them. But he never asked why he didn’t get anything. I think he understood. Thanks for reading. And feel free to pass it on, my friend! 🙂

  10. we are right there with you. My side of the family thinks we are ruining every fun thing for the kids, hey they still have fun. and grannies always use “if you aren’t good santa won’t bring you any thing” ugh! then the kids come home and say “why would nanna say that? why would she lie to us?”

  11. I’ve never seen the point in making kids believe in Santa, Easter bunny, tooth fairy, etc. They know we are the ones doing everything (gifts, hiding eggs, etc). They know about all those characters, kinda hard not to, but know they aren’t real and things aren’t any less fun for knowing the truth! Saves us a lot of extra work too (no cookies & carrots at Christmas, etc and explaining later on).

  12. I hadn’t prepared for questions about the Easter Bunny or Santa… When my oldest children were much younger, maybe 3-ish, a waiter at Mexican restaurant asked my son what Santa was going to bring him. “A taco, please,” he said. He had no idea who Santa was and thought he was a waiter! We have gone over our answers since then! Ha ha!
    What is sometimes sad to me is that so many Christian families worry so much about whether or not they celebrate Halloween, but they do not give as much thought to how they celebrate Christian holidays and whether these “fun” traditions honor God or point our children to the life of Christ and the real Reason for the seasons. 🙁 I’m enjoying your blog!

    • Oh you are SO right about the Halloween issue! The kids, hubby, and I love to dress up silly and we go to the fall festivals and such, but the kids have no idea that it’s supposed to be a scary sort of thing. And we do all the fun stuff at Christmas, but give Santa no place for receiving any praise for anything. My husband says, “I worked hard for the money that gives us Christmas. The kids are gonna know it came from us and God!” I’m so glad you’ve been stopping by!!!

  13. Well said. It is not an easy decision to go against the “norms” of society, but it is a decision we have never regretted!

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  15. I have five grown kids….and two very young kids ages 4 and 6. When my older kids were little, we were no Santa, no Halloween, no Easter Bunny…yadda yadda yadda. Only Jesus, no lies, only truth.

    And not a lot of fun.

    Do what you want, and no criticism from here, but I was once where you are, idealistic and hopeful that somehow we’d ‘escape’ all the perils of the world and not have undue influence from Harry Potter and Leprechauns and The Tooth Fairy.

    What I learned however, was that the spirituality of my children, depended more on how I conducted myself with others,than whether or not I “allowed” anything ‘non-Jesus” and “non-Gospel” to cross our threshold. My kids learned what truth was based on whether or not I acted like a real person and treated them and others with kindness and love, and when they needed it, tough love. Sometimes, the love was tough on me when I came to the realization that their salvation was not based on whether or not I did everything “right.” Their salvation really had very little to do with me and everything to do with their relationship with God.

    Add in events that caused us all to really shake our faith and love as a family, (a divorce, a death of a child) and the tooth fairy and Santa got nuthin.

    My experience is that if you allow your kids to believe in Santa, or the Easter Bunny, it’s not going to be a deal breaker. I found that it wasn’t a deal breaker for them when they were old enough to realize the truth that the Leprechaun on St. Paddy’s day did NOT actually make green footprints all over the house. They just remembered it was fun.

    I hope the biggest trial you ever have to worry about with your kids, is only whether or not you allow Santa or the Easter Bunny, because trust me, there are bigger things most families end up worrying about and dealing with.

    • Thank you for sharing your experience and opinion! 🙂 Yes, I totally agree there are much larger concerns in families. We have them as well, which is another reason why we do not focus on these characters. We do so many other things that are fun that the kids don’t even care about the other. There is no way to keep out the world. Instead, in my family, we attempt to give our kids a Christian worldview and we discuss the world through those “glasses”. Ultimately their decision to choose Christ is their decision, but I do believe that they watch my own relationship with Jesus and that has a lot to do with me. How I deal with trials, failure, death, life, crisis, and friendships, etc. is my testimony to them and how I believe God and trust in Him. Kids watch everything and learn from it. They see me make mistakes all the time. They see me lose my temper. They see my sin. And they see me working through those with the Lord Jesus. I’d rather focus on things that matter and have fun along the way, than be caught up in pretend, materialistic matters run by companies who just want a buck and don’t care about my kids.

  16. My kids are now all adults with kids of their own. Their dad and I decided when they were little that we did not want to lie to them. I remembered wondering about Jesus being real when I found out that Santa was not and didn’t want the same for them. However, both of us had some great memories of the “magic” of christmas, easter, and all of that. We found a way. We simply played some of these things as a pretend game. We kept decorations and such on a spiritual level and still read them stories about Santa and his red nosed reindeer. We simply told them which stories were true and which ones were only pretend. We can pretend to do a lot of fun things as long as we know the truth. We had an “elf on the shelf” for a few years. We sat on Santa’s lap at the mall. We were part of our culture, but always kept TRUTH as sacred. As my kids start having kids of their own, I’ve asked them what they are are going to do. I’ve asked them if they thought we made the right choice. I’ve asked them if they thought that they missed out on anything. All three have said that they have the best memories of the holidays. They felt that they got the best of it all and never felt that they missed out on anything. They are doing the same things at their houses.

  17. I can honestly say I have never looked at it in this light! Growing up, I remember holidays, Christmas, Easter, etc., even birthdays! And then my mother decided one day that she had become a Jahovah’s witness. And it all stopped abruptly! My father was a southern Babtist (whatever that means) but the only time I ever (to date) have seen him in a church is funerals & weddings. So from that point forward, EVERYTHING was a fight! Holidays were the worst! Birthdays too! My dad always made sure we had a decorated tree and presents under it Christmas morning, but it was often Christmas Eve that it all happened and with alot of crying and fighting involved! So while I don’t have good memories of my childhood, I vowed my own children would have good ones! So my 9 yr old son still believes in Santa (I really don’t know how, but he really does!!!) My daughter was told the truth by her cousin when she was young. She was saddened by it. I always try to focus things on Jesus. But reading this has caused me to really think about telling my son the truth! But I’m not sure even where to start! or when! But I like the ideals that you bring to the table here! I always have shied away from Halloween, for the obvious! But it wasn’t until I was pregnant with my daughter that I even sought out Jesus for myself! I had such a bad “taste” and outlook of “religion”! All I really know, is right or wrong, good or bad, the bible says if I “train up my child in His way, when they are older, they will not part from it”! So I just strive to teach them the the ways and values of Jesus each day! Even though I feel like they are not listening to me, I am still planting the seeds in their hearts. I know God will do the rest! Thank you for posting this. While I never thought of any of it this way, after reading this, it just seems so obvious!

Thoughts? Please share!