Girls can be so mean to each other. And it doesn’t help that there are movies that glorify the behavior. I think growing up in today’s world is much harder than when I was growing up. At least it seems to be more of a world of bullying and cat fights. That’s probably being a bit dramatic, but you know what I’m talk about.
When I was growing up, especially in middle school, I had 3 other girl friends and I never knew which of the girls were against who, who I wouldn’t be “allowed” to speak to that day, or heaven forbid, if it was ME that was to be ignored.
During the years I taught 4th and 5th grade, this seemed to be the behavior seen among younger girls. It made my heart so sad to see the selfish arguments the girls had. And I learned VERY quickly that one should NEVER put three girls together in a group. One will always be left out and that causes problems. So as a teacher I tried to do whatever I could to help the environment be one that did not increase the chances of mean behavior.
And there are also different “flavors,” if you will, of young girls. You have your Strong Leader who seems to dominate the relationships and direct the paths of those around her. There’s the Strong Follower who will do whatever it takes to keep the Strong Leader happy. The Onlooker is the young girl who is “left out” but wishes to be “in.” Lastly you have your Different Drum, who doesn’t care what the other girls say or do.
So how does a parent navigate their young daughter through such hard situations? That’s where I need your wisdom, Readers. My daughter is only 3 right now, but I want to be prepared, or help HER be prepared, for whatever might come her way. Some of this is personality driven, I know that. If my daughter was more shy, I’d probably worry more. But I don’t want my daughter to become the Strong Leader either, unless she leads with a heart belonging to the Lord.
For those of you who had daughters, how did you handle the “meanness” of girls? Because whether you homeschool or not, it’s going to show up anywhere. There is no getting around it.